Taking care of myself helps me feel sexy and more in tune with my body. A failure to do so is the surest way to jam a spiked butt plug into your relationship. The modern concept of "swinging" is a recent Western phenomenon with no counterpart or meaning in many other cultures and civilizations in history in which monogamous relationships was the norm or which had religious or social prohibitions against such sexual practices. Monday night we just hang out like any regular couple. I spoke with several real-life swingers, and I got the low down on their lifestyle.